3 Ways To Cope With A Suicide
Suicide, the act of killing oneself, is a no win situation for both the victim and his/her loved ones.
Indeed the question as to what would have cause someone to make such a choice is usually summed up as, why? Why would he/she have taken their life? Yes, we immediately seek out some answers and if there was a letter left behind, to give use some answers, or a police investigation provides some, we are still left at a lost.
Yes, although our minds may be given an answer, our hearts are not able to process it.
Yes, our hearts refuses to comprehend it, it makes no sense us.
Therefore, we may go through scenarios within our minds as to how we could have prevented it from happening and many other struggles.
Therefore, as we are faced with such a loss, perhaps the following three suggestions may be helpful during this time.
Pour It Out Healthily We may experience anger, frustration, and guilt, of course sadness and many more unexpected emotions.
Emotions that we did not realise that we had, much less that we could have expressed and suddenly, they are there, ready to be pour out and, we should let them flow.
However, only in a manner, that will open a way for our healing and not one that will lead us, down a road of depression.
Additionally, we could grief in such a manner that it could cause our loved ones to be concerned that we also would take this road.
Yes, let it pour, but not in a way in which it would add grief upon grief, by troubling our loved ones as we seek to handle our pain.
Be With Others This is not a time for us to isolate ourselves from others.
It is a time for us to give comfort and to receive it and it should be a two-way-street.
We could be so busy seeking to be strong for everyone that we do not allow ourselves to grief and therefore allow others to comfort us.
While on the other hand, we could become consumed with our pain, thus preventing us from seeing the pain of those around us and therefore preventing us from comforting them.
Don't Time It We should not give ourselves a time limit as to when we should be moving forward.
If we think that after the funeral, we would move forward, or a month later and so forth, this may not work out that way.
It is best to take it one day at a time as we seek to heal.
Indeed the question as to what would have cause someone to make such a choice is usually summed up as, why? Why would he/she have taken their life? Yes, we immediately seek out some answers and if there was a letter left behind, to give use some answers, or a police investigation provides some, we are still left at a lost.
Yes, although our minds may be given an answer, our hearts are not able to process it.
Yes, our hearts refuses to comprehend it, it makes no sense us.
Therefore, we may go through scenarios within our minds as to how we could have prevented it from happening and many other struggles.
Therefore, as we are faced with such a loss, perhaps the following three suggestions may be helpful during this time.
Pour It Out Healthily We may experience anger, frustration, and guilt, of course sadness and many more unexpected emotions.
Emotions that we did not realise that we had, much less that we could have expressed and suddenly, they are there, ready to be pour out and, we should let them flow.
However, only in a manner, that will open a way for our healing and not one that will lead us, down a road of depression.
Additionally, we could grief in such a manner that it could cause our loved ones to be concerned that we also would take this road.
Yes, let it pour, but not in a way in which it would add grief upon grief, by troubling our loved ones as we seek to handle our pain.
Be With Others This is not a time for us to isolate ourselves from others.
It is a time for us to give comfort and to receive it and it should be a two-way-street.
We could be so busy seeking to be strong for everyone that we do not allow ourselves to grief and therefore allow others to comfort us.
While on the other hand, we could become consumed with our pain, thus preventing us from seeing the pain of those around us and therefore preventing us from comforting them.
Don't Time It We should not give ourselves a time limit as to when we should be moving forward.
If we think that after the funeral, we would move forward, or a month later and so forth, this may not work out that way.
It is best to take it one day at a time as we seek to heal.
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