Do you know what "you" are looking for? How many times have you said, "I just can't find the right one?" Well, chances are you don't know who the "right" one is.
There are a few reasons why people are drawn to certain types - chemistry, physical attraction, the bad boy syndrome.
And why is it that so many girls seem to be attracted to "the bad boy?" What does the term "bad boy" mean? Is he a guy who treats us badly, cannot connect, is noncommittal, or is the Harley black-leather type of guy? I think, as women, we need to stop saying, "I'm attracted to the bad boy type.
"Think about what that says about us.
Do I really want a guy who will treat me badly, who is noncommittal, who is BAD? Absolutely not! Come on girls, it's time to make a statement.
I want a man who is handsome (not bad), loving (not bad), emotionally stable (not bad), daring (not bad), exciting (not bad).
So, if we take out the word bad, what we are really looking for is a handsome, loving, emotionally stable, daring, exciting boy, not a BAD BOY! Remember that when creating your profile.
Ask yourself this question, "What am I looking for in a man?" If you say I'm drawn to the "bad boy" type, you may not be ready for a loving, committed relationship just yet.
Let's face it, "bad boys" are usually bad for a reason.
So, if that's your answer and that's what you are drawn to, then you have two choices.
You can accept the fact that you're not ready for a stable, loving relationship, but are looking for an on the edge, daring, I wonder if he will call me tomorrow kind of fling and go with it.
Don't expect to "change" him into something you want him to be (come on, mamma taught you better than that), but be ready to live for the moment and live with the unexpected.
If you are truly looking for good, committed relationship, then DUMP the "bad boy" and go out with a "nice guy.
" Nice doesn't mean boring, it means just what it says - "nice.
" Don't you deserve to be treated nicely by someone who truly cares about you? Wouldn't you rather be with someone who is able to commit himself and love only you? Wow, what a concept, what a feeling! Let's try it girls! Make sure you are direct with what type of man you are looking for.
Don't be pulled in by the charmers who are out there.
The guys who tell you right away how beautiful you are, how as soon as they saw your photo, they immediately knew it was you, that you melt them.
Unfortunately, it is so easy to get swept away by these men, especially if you have been alone for some time, coming out of a bad relationship, or not feeling special.
You are vulnerable and wanting to hear these things so badly, you will believe them even if you know the person's intentions are up for question.
DON'T, and I can't stress it enough, don't be drawn into that trap.
That is why it is so important to be READY for a relationship before you enter one.