One thing I have found about girls is they become more interested when you make out like you don't have time for them. They love a man on the move. They get the very romantic view that you are out and about, going to important meetings and having dinner in fancy restaurants and it increases your net value to them. Be a busy bee and you will have them swarming round the honey pot.

Then you must be seen to be collected some of this metaphorical pollen. Of course, I am not suggesting that you start to fly off to Hong Kong or Tokyo to attend some phony appointments (but if you can carry something like that off, more power to you), but you should get active. This means joining a club, joining a gym, starting night school or spending time with other women (yes, other women. Preferably not your mother but not necessarily dates. Exposure to other women will help you get a grip on how the female mind works).

And all of these activities have the added effect of a) putting you in a position where you can meet more women, and b) giving you a more positive outlook in general that knocks on to, and improves, all other aspects of your life. Everyone's a winner!

So when arranging a date make out that you are really busy, but you are making an extra special effort for her and can squeeze her in at a very specific time. If you get asked why you are busy another time make indefinite excuses like you have to meet someone or you have to go somewhere. This way her curiosity about you will increase.

Be the guy on the go and get the dates. Otherwise you'll be sitting at home playing computer games wondering why that other guy is having all the fun.