Compatible Match - Should Couples Take Compatibility Tests?
Are you and your partner compatible? Are you in your relationship for the long haul? Should you take a couple’s compatibility test?
When my husband and I were engaged, we took premarital counseling classes at our church and at the beginning of the classes, we both took compatibility tests. We both scored high and taking the test as well as the ensuing classes really helped us confirm that we were a compatible match.
Now, not all couples take compatibility tests and the question arises that is it necessary and especially during the initial dating stages? It’s all a matter of perspective. In order to get married at our church, we needed to take the compatibility tests as well as participate in the classes. While we were dating, we did not think about taking a detailed, professional compatibility test from a premarital counseling course.
However, taking a compatibility course in the dating stages is not ludicrous. It can be very helpful to see if you are a compatible match and this would be vital information, especially if you are thinking of continuing the relationship for the long term. Some people have the opinion that compatibility is not a deal breaker. I beg to differ. Yes, you can grow together as a couple and learn about each other’s personalities; however, if you are not compatible as a couple, you will encounter more problems in the relationship than if you were highly compatible.
When my husband and I took the compatibility tests and the scores and results were reviewed by our counselors, for any of the problem areas, we were able to detect them and then work through solutions as a preventive measure. If you don’t know you’re not compatible in certain areas, then how are you going to prepare for the problems or work through them in some sort of peaceful way?
Compatibility tests are helpful, but mainly so, when you answer the questions truthfully. If you are trying to ascertain whether or not you are a compatible match and decide to take a compatibility test, then you must be truthful to yourself as you answer the questions because if you lie on the test you are only hurting yourself. Don’t be afraid that you might be incompatible in certain areas. If you find that out, it’s highly possible that you both can work through those issues as a couple. If you’re extremely incompatible, then it may be very beneficial for both of you to end the relationship, rather than sign up for a lifetime of unnecessary conflict and struggles.
After taking a couple’s compatibility test, if you’re serious about pursuing an emotionally healthy and mature relationship, you may want to consider attending a relationship workshop or seminar, as well as have some sessions with a relationship coach. Compatibility as a couple should not be taken lightly and when you find that compatible match, you should hang on and not let this person go because, finding the right one is one hundred percent better than settling for second best.
When my husband and I were engaged, we took premarital counseling classes at our church and at the beginning of the classes, we both took compatibility tests. We both scored high and taking the test as well as the ensuing classes really helped us confirm that we were a compatible match.
Now, not all couples take compatibility tests and the question arises that is it necessary and especially during the initial dating stages? It’s all a matter of perspective. In order to get married at our church, we needed to take the compatibility tests as well as participate in the classes. While we were dating, we did not think about taking a detailed, professional compatibility test from a premarital counseling course.
However, taking a compatibility course in the dating stages is not ludicrous. It can be very helpful to see if you are a compatible match and this would be vital information, especially if you are thinking of continuing the relationship for the long term. Some people have the opinion that compatibility is not a deal breaker. I beg to differ. Yes, you can grow together as a couple and learn about each other’s personalities; however, if you are not compatible as a couple, you will encounter more problems in the relationship than if you were highly compatible.
When my husband and I took the compatibility tests and the scores and results were reviewed by our counselors, for any of the problem areas, we were able to detect them and then work through solutions as a preventive measure. If you don’t know you’re not compatible in certain areas, then how are you going to prepare for the problems or work through them in some sort of peaceful way?
Compatibility tests are helpful, but mainly so, when you answer the questions truthfully. If you are trying to ascertain whether or not you are a compatible match and decide to take a compatibility test, then you must be truthful to yourself as you answer the questions because if you lie on the test you are only hurting yourself. Don’t be afraid that you might be incompatible in certain areas. If you find that out, it’s highly possible that you both can work through those issues as a couple. If you’re extremely incompatible, then it may be very beneficial for both of you to end the relationship, rather than sign up for a lifetime of unnecessary conflict and struggles.
After taking a couple’s compatibility test, if you’re serious about pursuing an emotionally healthy and mature relationship, you may want to consider attending a relationship workshop or seminar, as well as have some sessions with a relationship coach. Compatibility as a couple should not be taken lightly and when you find that compatible match, you should hang on and not let this person go because, finding the right one is one hundred percent better than settling for second best.
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