Why She Likes to Make Things Difficult For Guys
Many years back, I came across a girl called Jane, who loved to tease men.
She did have a pretty good feel when it came to driving men crazy and still getting what she wanted.
She invited guys to come over and then cancel on them.
She started fights for no good reason.
She could be sweet and then turned into another difficult woman in the span of five seconds.
She did it all deliberately.
As you might imagine these guys went crazy.
They pleaded, they argued, they begged and they did everything but what they should have done, was just laugh, shake their head and tell her she deserved some spanking, but that this was not the way to earn it.
I asked her why she behaved in this way and she told me something revealing--"if they cannot properly handle the small amount of nonsense I give them, they are never going to be able to handle the bigger ones and I need a man who can handle the big pressure.
" Very well said! While most women are not as extreme as Jane was, they all do the same thing.
They try your patience to see if you can control your patience.
Here is the truth: if a woman's misbehavior is going to make you throw a tantrum, lose your cool, or crack under the tiniest amount of pressure, then you are never going to be able to cope with anything big and she knows it.
Women are biologically programmed to seek this out in men.
They are also programmed to repeatedly test guys for it.
If a woman senses the man in her life is losing his sense of personal authority (or control), she will start nagging, acting bitchy and starting fights in an attempt to get him to restart it.
Most men misinterpret this and can either engage in arguing or fighting, get irritated, or turn into a pushover and agree to her every demand.
This is the complete opposite of what you should do.
Instead, you have to recognize the behavior for what it is-a warning sign that you have lost your authority.
The fix is simple- re-establish it by calmly, coolly, and firmly letting her know you will not tolerate such behavior.
Next you simply start leading in the relationship again.
She did have a pretty good feel when it came to driving men crazy and still getting what she wanted.
She invited guys to come over and then cancel on them.
She started fights for no good reason.
She could be sweet and then turned into another difficult woman in the span of five seconds.
She did it all deliberately.
As you might imagine these guys went crazy.
They pleaded, they argued, they begged and they did everything but what they should have done, was just laugh, shake their head and tell her she deserved some spanking, but that this was not the way to earn it.
I asked her why she behaved in this way and she told me something revealing--"if they cannot properly handle the small amount of nonsense I give them, they are never going to be able to handle the bigger ones and I need a man who can handle the big pressure.
" Very well said! While most women are not as extreme as Jane was, they all do the same thing.
They try your patience to see if you can control your patience.
Here is the truth: if a woman's misbehavior is going to make you throw a tantrum, lose your cool, or crack under the tiniest amount of pressure, then you are never going to be able to cope with anything big and she knows it.
Women are biologically programmed to seek this out in men.
They are also programmed to repeatedly test guys for it.
If a woman senses the man in her life is losing his sense of personal authority (or control), she will start nagging, acting bitchy and starting fights in an attempt to get him to restart it.
Most men misinterpret this and can either engage in arguing or fighting, get irritated, or turn into a pushover and agree to her every demand.
This is the complete opposite of what you should do.
Instead, you have to recognize the behavior for what it is-a warning sign that you have lost your authority.
The fix is simple- re-establish it by calmly, coolly, and firmly letting her know you will not tolerate such behavior.
Next you simply start leading in the relationship again.
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