I was the victim of anti-gay violence not long ago. It seems like ages have past. Luckily, I was not badly injured: my pride perhaps, but not my physical. I've spent much time mentally and emotionally healing. These days, I only think of the incident every once in a while. The aftermath of the event was perhaps one of the most confusing times of my life. My thoughts swam through my head. I wondered how I, a grown man, could be in such a situation.

I questioned why my gut reaction led me to get in between a stranger who was the original target and the guy who had no control. I dealt with the reactions of the venue where it happened, the police and other institutions. The experience was daunting.

When I read the seemingly regular news of gay-bashings and anti-LGBT violence across the country, I can't help but think of how lucky I was and how many people have to endure such acts of violence. Hate crimes based on sexual orientation and gender expression violence has steadily increased. According to FBI hate crime statistics, law enforcement agencies reported 1,376 hate crime offenses based on sexual-orientation bias in 2012, down from 1,572 the previous year.

Anti-gay violence can range in severity. Often what we hear in the news are incidents of death or severe injury. However, many LGBT people experience some form of hate-based offenses. As About.com Lesbian Life Guide Kathy Belge says, "Hate crimes can range from gay-bashing, property damage, harassment, assault, rape or murder.

Some LGBT people have come to expect or even tolerate a certain amount of violence."

If you have experienced any form of hate based violence, start by:

• Calling the police. Dial 911 and explain as many details about the incident as possible. If you are injured, ask for an ambulance and go to the nearest emergency room right away. File a police report and remember to be as detailed as possible. After an attack, time is of the essence. Get medical attention and get the police involved as soon as possible. Then:
• Find support. You don't have to deal with the emotional and mental strain of an anti-gay offense alone. Lean on a good friend or family member. Surround yourself with as many supportive people as possible.
• Seek professional help. Talking through the incident can help facilitate the healing process. Seek out a gay-affirmative therapist to help you through the process.
• Get anti-violence support services. There are anonymous services available in your local area that can assist you with dealing with the police, finding counseling, and other services. The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs provides a directory of local anti-violence programs.