Most people call natural phenomena such as various survival and mating behaviours instinct. But instinct is a term that does not exist in humans or in animals. The term instinct implies inborn or innate knowledge, which is a false notion. The use of instinct to explain behaviour is to explain nothing. Moreover the instinct explanation closes further investigation into that which is not yet understood or known. Instinct is an anti-intellectual, anti-scientific term. For, accepting that catchall term as an explanation precludes further intellectual and scientific efforts to discover the reasons for various behaviours.
Accepting instinct as an explanation for any human behaviour constitutes accepting that knowledge can be inborn or innately acquired without the self-efforts required for acquiring all knowledge.
Likewise, all living species functions through definable, understandable biological actions and reactions, not through instincts.
To explain anything as instinct is a default to the desire for automatic, inborn, effortless knowledge.
In adulthood,those who grew up accepting the challenge to self-develop can easily outcompete those naturally beautiful people who earlier in life never experienced those pressures to develop and remained more or less instinctive. As a result, many people with great natural beauty sadly grow old remaining undeveloped, immature, incompetent, unable to love or be loved.
Achieving romantic love requires the discipline of thought and effort for every individual, regardless of innate physical appearances.
Likewise,a person must be cautious of involvement with people of exceptional natural beauty whose personal lives reflect low-effort, low-productivity and more instinctive. Such individuals often let their natural beauty su of competence, substitute for the long-term effort required to develop characters of competence, self-esteem, and
sensuosity required for romantic love. Thus, underdeveloped, beautiful people are often airheads, instinctive- often boring, value-draining people who are poor lovers with low self-esteem.
Naturally beautiful people can easily develop lady-killer or man-killer syndromes in their realtionships.
Being a seductive killer can temorarily boost a weak ego by feeling
a power to destroy values and hurt others. But that syndrome leads the
perpetrator into life-wasting destructive relationships.
Indeed, a person who mistreats or manipulates his or her love partner usually suffers much more in the long run than the abused partner. For that abused partner will have new chances for love and happiness. But the chronic manipulator loses his or her capacity for love and is left with a future of increasing unhappiness, sexual incompetence, romantic failures, and ultimate loneliness.