Sometimes you're put in a position in a relationship that's hard to understand or deal with. Your ex may not want to see or talk to you, but you need them back in your life. There's no way of approaching them, however, so what can you do?

The only option for someone in this situation is to take a short break from the relationship. Though it is your only option, don't feel that you are restricted. In fact, this is what most experts recommend for an ailing relationship.

Think about it. Have you ever lived with a friend in close quarters, and you got on each other's nerves? Or have you perhaps met up with an old buddy you'd not seen in a long time, and had a great time?

Cutting off Contact - What Does it Really Accomplish?

Taking a short break, or even agreeing to a break up, can have many positive effects on both partners. While some may argue that you should chase your ex to show them how strongly you feel, this just appears as though you're coming on 'too strong'.

Spending some time apart works because it gives you both some time on your own to reflect. Have you ever noticed how, when you're on your own, you can think things over more clearly? In the company of a friend or lover, things become hazy.

You will both start to miss each other. Your ex will start to think "Have I made a big mistake?" This is why some people advise that you start dating others during a break up period. Your ex will worry that they are losing you forever, and this is a strong motivator for them to take action.

How Long?

I advise 3 to 4 weeks, but it will depend on your situation. If there is bad blood in the air, give it longer. You have to be strong to see this through, because your instinct will tell you to chase them before it's too late. Put yourself in the driving seat though, and get them to chase you.