There is any number of reasons a man might decide he wants to get back his wife into his life after she left him.
It could be because she was the love of his life and he just can't go on without her.
It could be loneliness, or needing her to have a better relationship with the kids.
It could be to get rid of alimony payments.
Whatever the reasons you have decided to clinch your teeth and resolve to get...
back...
wife, here are some essential tactics to help you achieve that goal.
Generally speaking, if a method of wooing back your wife has even a slight potential for getting you arrested or causing you to max out your credit cards, it's a bad idea.
No bricks through the bedroom window in the middle of the carrying a love letter and a rose.
No singing telegrams, no candy-grams, no strumming your guitar and singing love songs at 3 in the morning.
Resist the urge to send her rooms full of flowers, diamond necklaces, and minks.
Instead, take a long, hard look at these time-proven methods that just might help you restore your relationship and get back your wife into your life.
Consideration #1.
Make sure you point blame where it is really deserved.
If the pressures of the economy, your business, your job, your health, your family, her family, or any other external force made a big contribution to your breakup, make sure you don't blame her-or yourself-when you and she were not the major source of your problems.
If you want to get back your wife, first make sure that you take care of bad influences first so that they won't sink your new relationship when you rescue it.
Consideration #2.
If you want to get back your wife, give up on getting back at your wife.
A need to fix blame on your wife, just like a need to put her on a pedestal, is a really strong indication that your marital problems were due to you, not to her.
It is especially important not to drag your friends or her friends into your marital discord.
When you finally make up with your ex, you will find it much less awkward to deal with those friends if you did not indiscriminately unload your emotions on them or use them to make your ex feel bad about herself or good about you.
Consideration #3.
Have and hold.
Did you recite the marriage vows "to have and to hold?" After your breakup, it may seem like there's no one to have or to hold, but the fact of the matter is that there is.
You can own responsibility for your part in the successes and the failures in your marriage.
You don't have to embrace blame that is not rightfully yours to have your wife back in your life, but you should take a long look at your part in your breakup before you try to reconnect with your wife.
Consideration #4.
Respect your ex.
Look at the qualities she had that drew you to her in the first place.
Carefully consider all the ways she has proven she can be a strong, independent woman worthy of a strong, independent man since you broke up.
If you can't respect your ex, your wife is not someone you want back in your life.
And, finally, Consideration #5.
Make it very clear to your ex that you love her.
That really does mean saying "I love you.
" You don't have to force the words into every conversation, but you should be able to say them at the right time and lead a life that makes them ring true.
More than any flowers, any romantic dinners, or any apology, the ability to say you love her and mean it is the best way to get your wife back into your life.
These are just a few of the hints, suggestions, and tips that I have developed over the years.
If your interested you could learn a lot more, but only if your serious about getting your wife back.