What Romance Can Do to Save a Marriage
Romance is the magic word, it is the glue of a relationship and a motive to staying together, it is what makes all the difference, and unfortunately, with all its importance, married couples give it their least of attention.
A valuable tip would be: invest in your romantic life, because it literally can be the only thing you need to do to save your marriage.
We know romance is essential to a relationship, because it was the reason you got married in the first place.
You 'fell in love' with your spouse, and then later realized, this is the person you want to live with for the rest of your life.
Before you got married, your investment in romance was literally 100%, it was mostly romantic dates, intimacy, presents, sweet talk which ultimately leads to a more loving and emotionally uplifting relationship.
After marriage, investment in romance naturally drops, because now, as a couple, you're together not just to be intimate, but to start a new family, which involves, financial commitments, time commitments, social commitments.
What couples often forget, is how they started out as a couple, and why they decided to get married to start with, they forgot, that they, out of the thousands of people around them, were attracted to one another and found love and romance with each other.
What they also forget is how that romance and love was fueled and grown.
It was grown by a mutual interest in one another and a time investment.
The first thing a couple can do rekindle their passion, is commit a time every week, to do an activity they used to do when they first found themselves.
This can be as simple as having dinner together at a favorite place, or watching a specific type of movies that they used to watch together, or even watching a movie at home together.
Find the easiest possible way to achieve this, and it doesn't have to be 'strictly' like old times.
The idea with this, is to tell our minds that we are committing some of our time to igniting passion, which will in turn re-ignite that internal flame of love and passion, and it will start small, but with continuation, will begin to grow and grow.
It's important to also recognize that if a couple have been suffering from their own problems and arguments, not to be too demanding the first few times together, as it takes time to relax into old habits.
Just commit to making an effort to enjoying your time, and even if you can't the first few times, commit to not saying anything, just enjoy the time.
Once you've got the ball rolling, you can start introducing more intimacy with one another, and even start doing things for one another that don't involve being together, like letting your partner spend a day on their own while taking care of affairs at home, basically doing more things that are expressions of love.
Once you get in the grove, the troubled times will be no longer.
And once you realize the importance of romance in your life and what it can do to your marriage, you'll find yourself being more and more creative in finding more ideas of making your time together more and more valuable and the days that once daunted upon you are now history, and whenever you see them coming back, you know why they did and what you can do to get them back on track.
A valuable tip would be: invest in your romantic life, because it literally can be the only thing you need to do to save your marriage.
We know romance is essential to a relationship, because it was the reason you got married in the first place.
You 'fell in love' with your spouse, and then later realized, this is the person you want to live with for the rest of your life.
Before you got married, your investment in romance was literally 100%, it was mostly romantic dates, intimacy, presents, sweet talk which ultimately leads to a more loving and emotionally uplifting relationship.
After marriage, investment in romance naturally drops, because now, as a couple, you're together not just to be intimate, but to start a new family, which involves, financial commitments, time commitments, social commitments.
What couples often forget, is how they started out as a couple, and why they decided to get married to start with, they forgot, that they, out of the thousands of people around them, were attracted to one another and found love and romance with each other.
What they also forget is how that romance and love was fueled and grown.
It was grown by a mutual interest in one another and a time investment.
The first thing a couple can do rekindle their passion, is commit a time every week, to do an activity they used to do when they first found themselves.
This can be as simple as having dinner together at a favorite place, or watching a specific type of movies that they used to watch together, or even watching a movie at home together.
Find the easiest possible way to achieve this, and it doesn't have to be 'strictly' like old times.
The idea with this, is to tell our minds that we are committing some of our time to igniting passion, which will in turn re-ignite that internal flame of love and passion, and it will start small, but with continuation, will begin to grow and grow.
It's important to also recognize that if a couple have been suffering from their own problems and arguments, not to be too demanding the first few times together, as it takes time to relax into old habits.
Just commit to making an effort to enjoying your time, and even if you can't the first few times, commit to not saying anything, just enjoy the time.
Once you've got the ball rolling, you can start introducing more intimacy with one another, and even start doing things for one another that don't involve being together, like letting your partner spend a day on their own while taking care of affairs at home, basically doing more things that are expressions of love.
Once you get in the grove, the troubled times will be no longer.
And once you realize the importance of romance in your life and what it can do to your marriage, you'll find yourself being more and more creative in finding more ideas of making your time together more and more valuable and the days that once daunted upon you are now history, and whenever you see them coming back, you know why they did and what you can do to get them back on track.
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