How to Not Argue With Your Teen
A Parent Coach listens, supports, encourages, respects, trusts, accepts and negotiates with their teen.
These are some of the common unconscious parent's habits like, criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing and rewarding to control.
The first strategy is to replace the unconscious parent's habits with parent coach's habits, to work towards not getting into an argument with your teen.
Secondly, knowing what is your relationship with your child right now helps you to set a goal of getting from point A to point B.
If you were to use numbers to calibrate your relationship with your teen, taking one as not talking or arguing and 10 being outstanding in your connection with your teen, where are you right now? Setting a clear goal: Assuming your current reality is you felt it is a 'one', and wants to move to an 'eight' in six months' time, what would an 'eight' look like? At a one currently, what is happening right now? Are you arguing with your teen ferociously.
Is it getting from bad to worse.
At an 'eight' feels like you are having a dialogue with your teen at the dinning table? An inspiring and positive goal might read, "Enjoying a dialogue with my son!" Questions to ask yourself is, "Is this specific?"; "Is this realistic?" and "Is this achievable?" Knowing where you are right now with regard to your relationship with your teen, you will have more clarity on how to achieve your goal.
Essentially, you are setting a goal around your relationship with your teen.
Once you are clear with where you are right now and where you want to go, the actions you take will be to focus on leading you to your goals.
By replacing the common unconscious parent's habits and focussing on your new habits of listening, supporting, encouraging, respecting, trusting, accepting and negotiating with your teen, the success rate of achieving your goal will be very high.
That would save both parent and teen a lot of heart-wrenching moments.
Research & options: Ask yourself how much do you understand teens transitioning to adults? Some work on researching on the understanding of teens might shorten your learning curve.
Whom do you know has great success in connecting with their teen? How can you model after them? Consider reading and attending seminars on Stop Parenting Start Coaching; Parent Coaching; Life Coaching skills and maybe begin with listening skills might be in your top list of options.
When you have done all that find out what is the best options for you to start taking the top five actions that could move you closer to stop arguing with your teen and start achieving your goal, "Enjoying a dialogue with my son!" If you like my tips here you would love my materials, articles and eBook in my website.
These are some of the common unconscious parent's habits like, criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing and rewarding to control.
The first strategy is to replace the unconscious parent's habits with parent coach's habits, to work towards not getting into an argument with your teen.
Secondly, knowing what is your relationship with your child right now helps you to set a goal of getting from point A to point B.
If you were to use numbers to calibrate your relationship with your teen, taking one as not talking or arguing and 10 being outstanding in your connection with your teen, where are you right now? Setting a clear goal: Assuming your current reality is you felt it is a 'one', and wants to move to an 'eight' in six months' time, what would an 'eight' look like? At a one currently, what is happening right now? Are you arguing with your teen ferociously.
Is it getting from bad to worse.
At an 'eight' feels like you are having a dialogue with your teen at the dinning table? An inspiring and positive goal might read, "Enjoying a dialogue with my son!" Questions to ask yourself is, "Is this specific?"; "Is this realistic?" and "Is this achievable?" Knowing where you are right now with regard to your relationship with your teen, you will have more clarity on how to achieve your goal.
Essentially, you are setting a goal around your relationship with your teen.
Once you are clear with where you are right now and where you want to go, the actions you take will be to focus on leading you to your goals.
By replacing the common unconscious parent's habits and focussing on your new habits of listening, supporting, encouraging, respecting, trusting, accepting and negotiating with your teen, the success rate of achieving your goal will be very high.
That would save both parent and teen a lot of heart-wrenching moments.
Research & options: Ask yourself how much do you understand teens transitioning to adults? Some work on researching on the understanding of teens might shorten your learning curve.
Whom do you know has great success in connecting with their teen? How can you model after them? Consider reading and attending seminars on Stop Parenting Start Coaching; Parent Coaching; Life Coaching skills and maybe begin with listening skills might be in your top list of options.
When you have done all that find out what is the best options for you to start taking the top five actions that could move you closer to stop arguing with your teen and start achieving your goal, "Enjoying a dialogue with my son!" If you like my tips here you would love my materials, articles and eBook in my website.
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