Question: What should a Femme know about strap-on sex?

I'm a young, inexperienced femme and I have a question about strap-on sex.Though I've had sex with women before, it's never involved a strap. I've been talking to this stud and I'm really into her. When I move back next month we're going to get together and in case we hook up, I don't want to look like an idiot. I've already asked her if she uses a strap and know she does. So...


What should a femme know about strap on sex? This might sound really ignorant, but.... are only certain positions possible? Should I tell her I never had sex involving a strap before?

Fantasizing Femme

Answer:

Dear Femme,

Great questions! There are many articles and advice for the strap-on wearer, but not a lot of advice for the receptive partner so she knows what to expect from her first time having sex with a partner wearing a dildo or strap-on.
First of all, yes indeed tell her that you have never had strap-on sex before. This is nothing to be ashamed of and it will allow her to know how to proceed with you. If you’re nervous about it, that’s okay too. Tell her and ask her to go slow and be patient with you. If she has more than one dildo, she might choose a smaller one for your first time until you both figure out what size you like best.

As for how to get ready, the best thing you can do to prepare for the experience is to get aroused. Spend a lot of time with her making out, fooling around, talking sexy.

Whatever it is that gets your juices flowing.

Bring some lube. If you’re not used to having penetrative sex, a little lube can go a long way. No matter if you’re aroused or not, getting lubed up will help the dildo slide in easier and will help make the experience more enjoyable for you.

As for positions, for your first time, I would suggest laying on your back with your legs spread. You can have your knees bent (a pillow under your lower back might feel comfortable) or straight, which ever feels more comfortable. This position allows eye to eye contact and you can communicate with your partner if something feels good or doesn’t. Once you get into a rhythm, move your hips to meet her in what ever way feels good to you. As you become more comfortable with dildo sex and with your partner, you can experiment with other positions.

Oh, and just because you’re the femme, doesn’t mean you need to always be the receptive partner in strap-on sex. If you both have an interest, switching it up can be lots of fun.