We Are Naturally Elegant When We Are Focused
On the most mundane level, elegance means the ultimate in sophistication, the epitome of fashion.
When we call someone elegant, we are referring to the artistic way a person presents him- or herself and the affect that presentation has on others.
We are enamoured-that individual has style.
But this type of polish is fleeting, for it is dependent on outside props.
If we have a bad hair day, are we no longer elegant? True elegance is not possible unless it is intimately connected to the Self, that is, it does not matter how good the outside looks unless it is congruent with the inside.
Being beautiful only carries us so far - we must also feel beautiful.
Each of us has a place inside that feels like home.
It is different for us all, and no one can tell anyone else where it is.
We figure it out by being brutally honest with ourselves, by being brave enough to accept the truth, whatever it might be.
This rawness anchors us to what is real and keeps us focused.
We are centered, and this unity is elegance in action.
When we are focused, there is a point of convergence where all the rays intersect.
This juncture of energy is our place of power.
For example, if we put our inner critic on hold and accept all our feelings as valid, regardless of what they are, at some instant they all become part of the same group.
They now have a cohesiveness, a compatibility, whereas a moment before they were incongruous.
When we choose acceptance over rejection, we get wholeness.
We are no longer splintered.
We have stopped fighting internal demons and started using our energy in a more productive way.
This feeling of completeness is the result of being balanced.
We are not talking here of a quid pro quo arrangement with four items in the plus column and four equal items in the minus column.
True serenity is homeostasis, a poised internal state that holds all the elements equally, allowing each of them to be what it is.
This does not mean that we close our eyes to the issues that need resolution or to qualities that need repairing, but rather we recognize this as our life's work-there will always be something to fine-tune.
By surrendering to the whole gamut of humanness, we have made room for it all, even the stuff we have the hardest time accepting.
This equanimity is solid, and its firm foundation keeps us focused on the Inner Self.
Using this foundation as home, we round the bases with grace, style, and natural elegance.
Chapter 40 from Reality Works- Let It Happen Copyright © 2002 Chandra Alexander
When we call someone elegant, we are referring to the artistic way a person presents him- or herself and the affect that presentation has on others.
We are enamoured-that individual has style.
But this type of polish is fleeting, for it is dependent on outside props.
If we have a bad hair day, are we no longer elegant? True elegance is not possible unless it is intimately connected to the Self, that is, it does not matter how good the outside looks unless it is congruent with the inside.
Being beautiful only carries us so far - we must also feel beautiful.
Each of us has a place inside that feels like home.
It is different for us all, and no one can tell anyone else where it is.
We figure it out by being brutally honest with ourselves, by being brave enough to accept the truth, whatever it might be.
This rawness anchors us to what is real and keeps us focused.
We are centered, and this unity is elegance in action.
When we are focused, there is a point of convergence where all the rays intersect.
This juncture of energy is our place of power.
For example, if we put our inner critic on hold and accept all our feelings as valid, regardless of what they are, at some instant they all become part of the same group.
They now have a cohesiveness, a compatibility, whereas a moment before they were incongruous.
When we choose acceptance over rejection, we get wholeness.
We are no longer splintered.
We have stopped fighting internal demons and started using our energy in a more productive way.
This feeling of completeness is the result of being balanced.
We are not talking here of a quid pro quo arrangement with four items in the plus column and four equal items in the minus column.
True serenity is homeostasis, a poised internal state that holds all the elements equally, allowing each of them to be what it is.
This does not mean that we close our eyes to the issues that need resolution or to qualities that need repairing, but rather we recognize this as our life's work-there will always be something to fine-tune.
By surrendering to the whole gamut of humanness, we have made room for it all, even the stuff we have the hardest time accepting.
This equanimity is solid, and its firm foundation keeps us focused on the Inner Self.
Using this foundation as home, we round the bases with grace, style, and natural elegance.
Chapter 40 from Reality Works- Let It Happen Copyright © 2002 Chandra Alexander
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