A lot of people have so broken marriages that they can't even remember how their honeymoon was like, let alone being able to imagine living a second one.
But it is possible.
This is my story of how I took my absolutely hopeless marriage from the bottom of the bottomless pit, and made it the love-filled experience that it was before.
My story starts like every other ending marriage there is: a spouse losing his love every day, to the point where he doesn't feel anything for his wife anymore, after a bit of time he wants a divorce.
The other spouse gets devastated by this fact and can't think of anything to do besides lie down, cry, beg and plead.
This is where my marriage was "absolutely hopeless.
" So what happened to change all this? What happened was that I realized that I was relying too much on myself just when I was the most unreliable.
Allow me to explain: Suppose that there are things that you can do to save your marriage, but you don't know what they are.
Do you just sit at home all day and try to come up with things that would "save" your marriage? Yes, that is what I had been doing.
I was asking myself, "what can I do to bring him to love me again? What can I do to make him reconsider this divorce?".
But at the same time, I was the last person in the world who would be able to come up with good relationship advice: I was devastated, I was desperate and crying every minute.
My judgment was obviously blurred.
All I could think of was stuff like begging, which was even more harmful.
This is why you have to stop relying on yourself on how to save your marriage.
You are reading this article now, which is a good sign that you are actively seeking outside advice on how to get out of this situation.
This is going to make you a winner if you continue in this path - because the moment I understood that I needed some outside advice to make things better, my marriage started being better!