When to Contact Your Ex After a Break Up
Right after a relationship ends, the situation between the two of you is the most volatile.
There will be hurt feelings and awkwardness, anger and despair.
You go from seeing and talking to each other on a daily basis to not having any contact at all, and this is the most unnatural part of things.
It's tricky to know what to do in this situation, and if you still love your ex and don't want the relationship to end? You'll have a thousand things to say and won't know when to say them.
Ironically, the less you say right now the better your chances for a reconciliation.
Even if you broke up on semi-friendly terms, there are a lot of emotions flying back and forth right now between the two of you.
Contact at this point will only hurt - one or both of you may say things you really don't mean.
Being angry after a break up is natural, but it doesn't mean you should damage the future of your relationship by saying everything that hits the tip of your tongue.
Sometimes, the best thing to do is nothing at all.
By taking a step back and establishing a no-contact policy with your ex boyfriend, you'll be saving yourself a lot of heartache later on.
Keeping your distance now will reduce the friction level after a break up, and give both parties time to think.
For you, it allows time for the anger to drain.
Try to shed the hopelessness and desperation that usually surrounds the end of a relationship, and replace it with good vibes and feelings.
Remind yourself that you still love your boyfriend, and on some levels he still loves you.
If there's love in his heart for you, the odds are very good that you'll be back together again soon.
By not pressing for that miracle to happen overnight, you're giving your relationship a good shot at reconciliation.
For him, you staying away gives him time to miss you.
He'll be impressed by the maturity with which you handled the break up, and he'll appreciate the fact that you're not fighting him on his decision.
He'll have time to examine your relationship from a solo viewpoint, and by you not communicating with him he'll also be lonely.
This type of atmosphere goes a long way toward getting your ex back, because by giving him peace and quiet you're letting him reflect on the fact that he might still love and need you.
The type of damage control can really make or break the future of your relationship, should you have one.
If things between you aren't over, there will be plenty of opportunities to get back together and talk about things.
Re-establishing communication with your ex is the easy part...
but knowing exactly what to say is harder.
There are good ways and bad ways of reconnecting with your ex boyfriend, but to succeed in winning him back you first must give him the space he needs to miss you.
There will be hurt feelings and awkwardness, anger and despair.
You go from seeing and talking to each other on a daily basis to not having any contact at all, and this is the most unnatural part of things.
It's tricky to know what to do in this situation, and if you still love your ex and don't want the relationship to end? You'll have a thousand things to say and won't know when to say them.
Ironically, the less you say right now the better your chances for a reconciliation.
Even if you broke up on semi-friendly terms, there are a lot of emotions flying back and forth right now between the two of you.
Contact at this point will only hurt - one or both of you may say things you really don't mean.
Being angry after a break up is natural, but it doesn't mean you should damage the future of your relationship by saying everything that hits the tip of your tongue.
Sometimes, the best thing to do is nothing at all.
By taking a step back and establishing a no-contact policy with your ex boyfriend, you'll be saving yourself a lot of heartache later on.
Keeping your distance now will reduce the friction level after a break up, and give both parties time to think.
For you, it allows time for the anger to drain.
Try to shed the hopelessness and desperation that usually surrounds the end of a relationship, and replace it with good vibes and feelings.
Remind yourself that you still love your boyfriend, and on some levels he still loves you.
If there's love in his heart for you, the odds are very good that you'll be back together again soon.
By not pressing for that miracle to happen overnight, you're giving your relationship a good shot at reconciliation.
For him, you staying away gives him time to miss you.
He'll be impressed by the maturity with which you handled the break up, and he'll appreciate the fact that you're not fighting him on his decision.
He'll have time to examine your relationship from a solo viewpoint, and by you not communicating with him he'll also be lonely.
This type of atmosphere goes a long way toward getting your ex back, because by giving him peace and quiet you're letting him reflect on the fact that he might still love and need you.
The type of damage control can really make or break the future of your relationship, should you have one.
If things between you aren't over, there will be plenty of opportunities to get back together and talk about things.
Re-establishing communication with your ex is the easy part...
but knowing exactly what to say is harder.
There are good ways and bad ways of reconnecting with your ex boyfriend, but to succeed in winning him back you first must give him the space he needs to miss you.
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