Your ex tells you that they love you, but you aren't sure, because they won't take you back.
Why would someone tell you that they love you, but on the other hand, not want you back? This confusion can be cleared up easily by looking at the situation, because there are very valid reasons why your ex would have feelings for you, but at the same time why he/she would show reservations when it comes to committing to you again.
In fact, you can understand the situation better with these 4 reasons: • You Broke Up Because You Can't Get Along - It's quite obvious that you broke up because there were problems in the relationship.
Perhaps there were communication issues, misunderstandings, intimacy problems, money problems, personality conflicts, trust issues etc..
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BUT, it's perfectly clear to your ex that you two simply don't get along.
BUT, that doesn't mean that your ex still doesn't have feelings for you, which they do; however their reservation comes from the common sense that you can't get along.
• You Butt Heads Too Much - You think you are right, your ex thinks he/she is right.
This happens so much that you often butt heads and neither of you can admit that the other is right; and neither of you can stand down either.
Your ex also knows this, which means that neither of you really ever understand each other, which is why your ex has a hard time taking you back.
When two people struggle for control in a relationship, it almost always ends in pain or a breakup; and your ex is not looking to repeat the past again in that sense.
• Love Is More Than Just Words - You might tell your ex that you love them as well, but in the end love is more than just words.
Actions count when it comes to love; and if the only actions that either of you ever do are harmful and hurtful ones, then your ex may be hesitant to get back into that kind of situation again.
Your ex may be looking for some change, either from both of you, himself/herself, or from you.
The change they seek may be necessary in order for them to be able to love you with their actions by getting back together again.
• Loving Someone Does Not Mean You Have To Do Things You Disagree With - If you are putting all kinds of expectations on your ex simply because they said that they love you, they will naturally feel as though you don't understand the meaning of love.
Love does not mean that a person has to do things they disagree with for their lover.
If your ex currently thinks that you should take some time apart; the fact that they love you does not mean that they should defy this idea simply because you desire otherwise.
That's because your ex may think or know from experience that the better and healthier option is to be apart for a while.