When a relationship comes to an end, it is hard to come to the realization that it is over.
This can be especially true when the relationship has first started.
Men generally have a problem with a breakup when the girlfriend is the one that leaves the relationship.
They hold on to the dream that it is just a misunderstanding and she will be back soon.
If you are wondering how to get back with your ex girlfriend then you have to have a plan.
There will be numerous steps you will need to take to get back with your ex girlfriend.
Here are a few tips to help you formulate a plan to get her back.
- Everyone gets a second chance, so it is not impossible that you can get back together with your ex girlfriend.
The first step is to realize where you really stand in the relationship.
Ask yourself these questions: Do you really love her? Do you really want her back? Are you willing to do what it takes to get her back? If so, then why? Do you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend because you are lonely or because you do not think you deserved to be dumped? Looking to get back together for any reason but "love" will not work or last and is a very dangerous game.
- Acting desperate, clingy or needy will not help you to get your ex girlfriend back.
Even if you are desperate to get your ex girlfriend back and she is driving you crazy not getting back together, you cannot give in to your emotions.
Do not let her see that side of you.
If you cannot help talking about your need for her, consider talking with trusted friends and relatives about it.
Never let your ex girlfriend see you cry, beg or whine in front of her and absolutely do not follow or stalk her.
- Focus on controlling your emotions, urges and self pity.
Learn to identify the positive aspects of what you can do to work out the issues that is keeping you and your ex girlfriend from getting back together.
Being desperate or needy around her may make her avoid you altogether.
- Let your ex know that the communication lines are open but do not push the issue by contacting her too much.
When she does communicate with you, keep it friendly and interesting.
After some time has passed since the breakup and you have not heard anything from your ex girlfriend, you may want to drop her a line just to say hello.
This will let her know that you can be nice and talk with respect to her.
- Take a close look at what went wrong with the relationship; there is always an underlying reason.
Find out what went wrong and start to work on that first.
If it is something that you did or did not do you will have to be willing to work on that first.
These are the first steps to take to get your ex girlfriend back but there are more to consider if you really want her back.