Hooking Up: The Ex Files
Hooking Up: The Ex Files
We all throw the term around with such studied bravado these days — as if these encounters don't mean a thing. As if we don't leave a sizeable piece of ourselves behind every time we exit someone's bed. Thinking back to my friend's discomfort and her valiant effort to suppress it when I sought her approval, I realized what I'd probably known deep down all along: that she'd actually had an investment in the guy.
What she didn't have — being a modern woman and all — was the nerve to say so. I knew then that The Poet wasn't worth the risk of losing her, almost certainly a better bet for relationship longevity. In letting him go, I won back my friend — making it by far my best breakup yet.
Originally published on June 12, 2008
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Hooking Up: The Ex Files
We all throw the term around with such studied bravado these days — as if these encounters don't mean a thing. As if we don't leave a sizeable piece of ourselves behind every time we exit someone's bed. Thinking back to my friend's discomfort and her valiant effort to suppress it when I sought her approval, I realized what I'd probably known deep down all along: that she'd actually had an investment in the guy.
What she didn't have — being a modern woman and all — was the nerve to say so. I knew then that The Poet wasn't worth the risk of losing her, almost certainly a better bet for relationship longevity. In letting him go, I won back my friend — making it by far my best breakup yet.
Originally published on June 12, 2008
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