Very often you will find that, though the relationship has finished, all is not over, so you must learn how to spot the signs that your ex wants you back.
Relationships often are not ended for the right reasons.
It may have been an argument in which something was said but not meant or that one of you was being taken for granted in the relationship.
You should start by examining the signals you receive.
You don't want to guard a contact if it only so that he can take what he wants from you whenever he needs it.
There are some signs that you have to be able to recognise but you must be sure they are real and not those you are just hoping to see.
Women are sometimes too good at pushing their imagination and thinking that their ex is inviting them back.
It is good thing to be positive about his every action, but you have to be sure that he is not using you just to satisfy his own needs.
There must be very clear signals from him to tell you he would like to rekindle the relationship.
The first sign comes when he wants to communicate regularly with you.
You notice that the messages are becoming more frequent.
He obviously would like to keep in touch and he is himself trying to see if you are still cross with him or if you are willing to talk to him.
If when you talk to each other he tells you about what he is doing that is new he is probably trying to show you that he is trying to improve himself.
He was probably feeling that he was a little the weak link in the relationship and so is now trying to something about it and improve himself.
He is trying prove to you that he will be a better person if you get back together again.
Listen carefully to the questions he may be posing.
If he asks what you have been doing, this is an indication that he still has some interest in being with you.
He will also want to know if you have found a new boyfriend and what his chances are of getting back with you.
Often women miss the principal sign and that is when he says that he misses you and wants to get you back.
This regularly happens but women miss it because their emotions are still quite high and they don't hear what their ex is saying to them or they think he is trying to play games with them.
When he looks straight at you and says he wants you back take him for being serious.
Behave like the pleasant, confident person you were when you first met each other; He will be drawn to wanting to be with you again.
You have to look for the positive signs he sends to you to tell you he wants to get back together with you.