Remember the good old days? You and your ex holding hands, smiling, and kissing each other everywhere you went? That was the golden age - the honeymoon portion of your relationship.
Since then, things have totally soured.
And now that your boyfriend or girlfriend has broken up with you, you've been dying to figure out ways to get them back.
You Can't Get Your Ex Back Until They MISS You In trying to get back with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, one thing most people overlook are their partner's own needs and desires.
They're so caught up in what they want, that they never stop to consider how they actually present themselves to an ex lover.
Your ex won't take you back because you miss them, or because you're in love with them, or because you still think you'd be "perfect together".
No, you and your ex stand no shot at ever dating again until a very simple thing happens: they have to miss you first.
Making your ex miss you is one of the biggest pieces of the 'get your ex back' puzzle.
And while most people will throw the no-contact rule in your face here (which is a good starting approach), the truth of the matter is that if you want your ex back fast, you also need something else.
Getting Your Ex To Miss The OLD You Now, let's get back to that honeymoon portion of your relationship again.
This was a time when your ex virtually worshiped you, as well as everything you did together.
A big part of that was because your relationship was shiny and new, and there was a lot you still needed to explore about each other.
However, an even bigger part of why your ex loved you so much back then was because you were putting forth the best possible YOU.
Remember how funny you were? How caring and sweet? How overwhelmingly cool and confident, and how you seemed to have all the right things to say? THIS is the person your boyfriend or girlfriend fell in love with.
And more importantly, this will be the person they actually miss the most.
Be that person again, and your ex will want you back FAST.
Right now however, you're probably an emotional wreck.
You're sad, upset, needy, maybe even a little bit desperate.
When your ex looks back at you, they see someone looking for pity...
or someone trying to heap guilt upon them for ending the relationship.
They no longer see that funny, sweet, cool person that made them laugh and took them places that made the two of you fall in love.
Instead of seeing a winner, your ex might actually perceive you as a loser.
Bringing Your Relationship Back To The Best of Times The good news is that you CAN bring your relationship back to that honeymoon stage, no matter how long it's been since the two of you broke up.
Reversing your breakup is all a matter of seizing back control over what happens next, and getting your ex to see you the same way they did in the beginning.
Getting back together with a boyfriend or girlfriend requires a walking a very specific path.
There's a time to agree and withdraw, and a time to put forth confidence and charisma.
There's a time to break contact, and a time to reconnect.
There's also a whole bunch of things you should be saying to an ex, as well as an even longer list of things you should avoid saying at all costs.
Don't leave getting back together to chance, especially if you value your past relationship.
Instead of flying by the seat of your pants, it's always best to have a step by step plan...
one that shows you what to do (and when to do it).