There is no doubt that the worst thing you can do after getting dumped is to keep harassing your ex by trying to call them or leaving them messages.
The reason for this is because it puts you in a bad light - it doesn't 'matter how "understanding" your ex is, they are taking mental notes and you are blowing it big-time.
But, as we all know, staying away isn't the easiest thing in the world to do.
There are a lot of emotions involved and we may only have one thing in mind: get him/her back.
We are hurting and the cure is fixing the relationship.
That's why some of the best advice out there suggests that you avoid your ex at all costs - at least until things calm down and you are able to sit down like mature people and talk things over.
Fair enough, but what are you expected to do in the meantime? Well, if things are really bad (maybe you've already made some bad decisions) and you don't trust yourself to be within contact range of your ex, it is an excellent idea to pack up and get away for a while.
If you are able to take some time off from work or school, this may be a great time to take a mini vacation.
And if you think you're going to have a moment of weakness, it might be a good idea to leave your cellphone behind for the duration of your trip.
Yes, it does sound a little drastic, but it is also a very effective way to avoid the negative behavior that is ultimately going to prevent you from getting your ex back in the future.
As a bonus, you are definitely going to get the attention of your ex.
They'll be wondering why you haven't been contacting them and this, in itself, can generate interest.
In some cases, they may even experience a feeling of loss because you aren't around.