Think About Saving Your Marriage - Stop the Divorce
Like in anything, there is always a cycle and marriage is no different.
It first starts out by falling in love, and then getting to know each other, then the final phase of getting married.
The traditional vows made in the church in the presence of the community in a marriage ceremony are the promises made to each other by two people who go into a commitment of love and trust.
When the marriage is in trouble divorce is not the only answer out there, neither is it the light at the end of the tunnel.
Divorce is the cowardly way out for those who do not like thinking on saving the marriage; however, in times of violence, divorce may just be the right answer.
Isn't it rather ironic that divorce be considered as the answer and yet not the answer? The thing about divorce is that the laws have made it so easy for couples to just give up and get out of a relationship that could be saved, but when it comes to a violent relationship, divorce seems to be the right answer.
The only way to know if the marriage is worth saving is when you ask the real questions that mean something about your own marriage.
If any of the three's answers are a solid 'yes' then there is logic to thinking about divorce.
But what if the answer is not a 'yes,' what do you do? To find out if you are in a logical frame of mind it is perfectly fine to ask the objective opinion of someone who does not know either of you.
If you ask the opinion of a friend or acquaintance there is always the danger of bias.
The parish priest or the minister are good people to ask, just make sure that you talk to someone whose church you do not belong to, to keep it as objective as possible.
These people, along with marriage counsellors, always offer the best help and they are a good shoulder to cry on.
If you don't ask someone to help you, no one would know that you are asking at all.
It first starts out by falling in love, and then getting to know each other, then the final phase of getting married.
The traditional vows made in the church in the presence of the community in a marriage ceremony are the promises made to each other by two people who go into a commitment of love and trust.
When the marriage is in trouble divorce is not the only answer out there, neither is it the light at the end of the tunnel.
Divorce is the cowardly way out for those who do not like thinking on saving the marriage; however, in times of violence, divorce may just be the right answer.
Isn't it rather ironic that divorce be considered as the answer and yet not the answer? The thing about divorce is that the laws have made it so easy for couples to just give up and get out of a relationship that could be saved, but when it comes to a violent relationship, divorce seems to be the right answer.
The only way to know if the marriage is worth saving is when you ask the real questions that mean something about your own marriage.
- Is the marriage a violent one?
- Is the distrust set in too deep because of activities outside of the marriage like drugs, betrayal, or even extra-marital affairs?
- Is it even a real marriage with the presence of the partner or have you been abandoned to fend for yourself and your children, if there are any?
If any of the three's answers are a solid 'yes' then there is logic to thinking about divorce.
But what if the answer is not a 'yes,' what do you do? To find out if you are in a logical frame of mind it is perfectly fine to ask the objective opinion of someone who does not know either of you.
If you ask the opinion of a friend or acquaintance there is always the danger of bias.
The parish priest or the minister are good people to ask, just make sure that you talk to someone whose church you do not belong to, to keep it as objective as possible.
These people, along with marriage counsellors, always offer the best help and they are a good shoulder to cry on.
If you don't ask someone to help you, no one would know that you are asking at all.
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