If your marriage is on the rocks, you're not alone; over half of all marriages end in divorce.
Don't assume, however, that because you're having problems that you're about to become a statistic.
There are some very effective strategies that you can employ when you're fixing a marriage - strategies that work.
One of the first things that you take a look at is how you're treating your spouse; in particular, are you accusing your spouse of doing things that he or she may not, in fact, have done? It seems elementary to say, but accusations aren't going to go very far in attempting to put a marriage back together.
Use "I" statements instead: "I feel that you aren't taking my needs into consideration when you're gone so much" rather than "You're spending too much time at the pub with your friends!".
The next thing you need to realize is that your spouse has opinions, and they need them to be heard and recognized.
You don't need to agree with your spouse to acknowledge that his or her opinions have value.
It's OK to disagree with those opinions, but be sure that you allow your spouse the freedom to express themselves fully, without fear of being belittled or worse, unheard.
Remember that marriages are like gardens; they need work if they're going to produce fruit.
You wouldn't think about just throwing vegetable or flower seeds into your backyard and expect to gain a good harvest.
You'd prepare the ground, plant the seeds, and then you'd work on the garden continuously, weeding and watering.
Marriage is the same way; you've got to pull some weeds before you harvest some flowers.
You made a commitment to each other, to stick together for better or for worse.
Keep that commitment.
Don't be afraid to try something new in fixing your marriage, but look back at all the times you've resolved conflicts before, and be sure you know what works for the two of you, too.
Remember that you made a commitment intended to last a lifetime.
That doesn't happen without work.