Handling Post Break-Up Blues - Surviving an Ugly Breakup
You didn't see it coming.
Maybe you did.
Three years or three months as an item - does time really matter? The point is - you've broken up.
The top three things on your to-do list if you're feeling the break up blues (or depression, the severity varies) - take care of yourself, give yourself time to mourn, move on.
News has it that the first 48 hours is the most excruciating of all.
If what they say is right, empty your schedule for the next 48 hours.
Cry your eyes out, pig out on Ben and Jerry's or lie on the couch in your pajamas watching sentimental movies.
This is the time to do what you want.
If you want to be alone, go ahead.
If you need some friends around you, give them a call.
But the most important thing of all is to not see, call, email or even text your ex.
The temptation may be strong and you can dial his number with your eyes closed but do not call the ex.
Switch your cell phone off, turn on your answering machine, and screen through all your calls.
After this agonizing period - get up and get moving.
Go around your house taking down all photos that include your ex, letters, gifts and all that jazz and throw them in a box before shoving it under your bed, in your closet or better still - in your garage.
Now, get back to your routine! Avoid going to places you used to frequent with your ex - getting all soppy wet from crying during the day is not going to help your self esteem.
Instead, call up a few girlfriends and put on your dancing shoes! You might not feel up for it but it's a healthy and fabulous release.
Nothing beats bringing sexy back to smooth tunes and thumping beats.
Going out to dance is a great excuse to dress to the nines (not that you even needed an excuse in the first place!).
Take extra care with your appearance because if you look good, you'll feel even better! All in all, the key to surviving a new breakup is to not in any way contact or even meet your ex! No calls, emails, instant messages or texting.
The moment you start idealizing about him and you find your hand moving to the phone, stop right there.
Keep this up for the first month or so (it's when temptation is the greatest).
Trust me, not hearing for him will do wonders for your broken-hearted soul.
Maybe you did.
Three years or three months as an item - does time really matter? The point is - you've broken up.
The top three things on your to-do list if you're feeling the break up blues (or depression, the severity varies) - take care of yourself, give yourself time to mourn, move on.
News has it that the first 48 hours is the most excruciating of all.
If what they say is right, empty your schedule for the next 48 hours.
Cry your eyes out, pig out on Ben and Jerry's or lie on the couch in your pajamas watching sentimental movies.
This is the time to do what you want.
If you want to be alone, go ahead.
If you need some friends around you, give them a call.
But the most important thing of all is to not see, call, email or even text your ex.
The temptation may be strong and you can dial his number with your eyes closed but do not call the ex.
Switch your cell phone off, turn on your answering machine, and screen through all your calls.
After this agonizing period - get up and get moving.
Go around your house taking down all photos that include your ex, letters, gifts and all that jazz and throw them in a box before shoving it under your bed, in your closet or better still - in your garage.
Now, get back to your routine! Avoid going to places you used to frequent with your ex - getting all soppy wet from crying during the day is not going to help your self esteem.
Instead, call up a few girlfriends and put on your dancing shoes! You might not feel up for it but it's a healthy and fabulous release.
Nothing beats bringing sexy back to smooth tunes and thumping beats.
Going out to dance is a great excuse to dress to the nines (not that you even needed an excuse in the first place!).
Take extra care with your appearance because if you look good, you'll feel even better! All in all, the key to surviving a new breakup is to not in any way contact or even meet your ex! No calls, emails, instant messages or texting.
The moment you start idealizing about him and you find your hand moving to the phone, stop right there.
Keep this up for the first month or so (it's when temptation is the greatest).
Trust me, not hearing for him will do wonders for your broken-hearted soul.
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