Time to Meet the Parents?
Has your girlfriend invited you to meet her parents for the first time? Are you afraid you might not leave a good first impression? This can be a nerve wrecking experience but if you do a little homework, you will increase your chance of winning their approval and being invited back.
Parents' expectation of their daughters significant other may vary from household to household depending on their values and culture, but the fact still remains that they want to see whether their daughter is making the right choice.
Is it time to meet the parents? Here are some tips that may help you make a positive impression: 1.
Look your best - Be sure to look clean and well groomed.
Don't wear shorts, t-shirts, tattered jeans or sneakers but wear clothing that are conservative and comfortable.
Best of all, it should fit the occasion.
2.
Do your homework - Research about her parents so you can be prepared.
Find out what their personalities and their interests.
Some parents are not accustomed to seeing public display of affection so be sure to research on what's acceptable or not under their roof.
3.
Avoid sensitive topics - Don't talk about sex, politics, or any other topic that you or her parent may not agree on.
Try to start a simple conversation and be sure to be polite and show them respect.
4.
Be yourself - Don't be pretentious.
This is not a job interview so be yourself and don't be too agreeable either thinking you will win their approval.
When they talk, listen to them attentively, and get involve in the conversation.
If you have your own opinion, voice it out but don't share too much information either.
You should talk about yourself and answer any questions they ask.
Don't lie about anything especially about where your relationship with their daughter is headed.
5.
Be confident - You may be nervous but try not to show it to them.
Maintain eye contact when you talk and when you share stories about yourself, your job, your achievements, or your family, be sure to tell them with confidence and pride.
However, be sure not to act too confident either or they might think your just bragging about yourself.
6.
Show courtesy - Don't forget to say "thank you" and tell them you're happy to meet them.
Give her parents some compliments.
If the food is great, be sure to praise whoever prepared it and even show interest on how it was cooked.
Listen to her parents when they talk about their life and never interrupt them.
7.
Be prepared - Her parents might ask how you met or even ask how serious you are about the relationship or your plans for the future.
Be sure to have a simple answer to these questions and not go into detail, especially about your future plans.
If they don't ask, don't initiate the discussion.
8.
Bring them some gifts - Bring wine, flowers or even your home cooked food.
Whatever gifts you decided to bring, make sure that they'll like them but try not to buy her parents something overly expensive.
Your goal in meeting her parents is to make a good first impression and to prove that you are the right person for their daughter and hopefully win their approval.
Good impression is important to be sure to be at your best.
Just relax and enjoy the meeting.
Parents' expectation of their daughters significant other may vary from household to household depending on their values and culture, but the fact still remains that they want to see whether their daughter is making the right choice.
Is it time to meet the parents? Here are some tips that may help you make a positive impression: 1.
Look your best - Be sure to look clean and well groomed.
Don't wear shorts, t-shirts, tattered jeans or sneakers but wear clothing that are conservative and comfortable.
Best of all, it should fit the occasion.
2.
Do your homework - Research about her parents so you can be prepared.
Find out what their personalities and their interests.
Some parents are not accustomed to seeing public display of affection so be sure to research on what's acceptable or not under their roof.
3.
Avoid sensitive topics - Don't talk about sex, politics, or any other topic that you or her parent may not agree on.
Try to start a simple conversation and be sure to be polite and show them respect.
4.
Be yourself - Don't be pretentious.
This is not a job interview so be yourself and don't be too agreeable either thinking you will win their approval.
When they talk, listen to them attentively, and get involve in the conversation.
If you have your own opinion, voice it out but don't share too much information either.
You should talk about yourself and answer any questions they ask.
Don't lie about anything especially about where your relationship with their daughter is headed.
5.
Be confident - You may be nervous but try not to show it to them.
Maintain eye contact when you talk and when you share stories about yourself, your job, your achievements, or your family, be sure to tell them with confidence and pride.
However, be sure not to act too confident either or they might think your just bragging about yourself.
6.
Show courtesy - Don't forget to say "thank you" and tell them you're happy to meet them.
Give her parents some compliments.
If the food is great, be sure to praise whoever prepared it and even show interest on how it was cooked.
Listen to her parents when they talk about their life and never interrupt them.
7.
Be prepared - Her parents might ask how you met or even ask how serious you are about the relationship or your plans for the future.
Be sure to have a simple answer to these questions and not go into detail, especially about your future plans.
If they don't ask, don't initiate the discussion.
8.
Bring them some gifts - Bring wine, flowers or even your home cooked food.
Whatever gifts you decided to bring, make sure that they'll like them but try not to buy her parents something overly expensive.
Your goal in meeting her parents is to make a good first impression and to prove that you are the right person for their daughter and hopefully win their approval.
Good impression is important to be sure to be at your best.
Just relax and enjoy the meeting.
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