Save My Marriage - It Was Now Or Never!
Sometime ago, I was at the ebb of my life. I had just gotten laid off from work and was heavily under debt. It was tremendous stress and it was taking its toll on my marriage. My wife was so unhappy with me that she was actually contemplating divorce. However my marriage was something I had held dear since the very beginning -- It was a treasure I could not afford losing. It was then that I thought that I needed to save my marriage today!
I knew I was not myself those days. I had too much tension on my shoulders and my mind could only handle so much. I did not spend time with my wife at all, let alone talking to her when she needed me. All she would get from me was shouts and words that would only hurt her. In addition to the pain I was causing my wife, we had children who were going to suffer the most. There were countless people around me who were divorced, and their children were those who were suffering. Their parents were so caught up in their own affairs they could hardly find time for their children. There was nobody to take them to school, no one to offer them consolation when the street bully beat them up or eat their lunch -- They were just alone. The result was that their grades began to fall.
I could not imagine a future like this for my children and just knew I had to do something about it. Moreover, I imagined I could not just keep my marriage going for the children; I had to save my marriage and make it work for all of us.
So I just took a leap of faith and left everything behind. I put everything on the back burner for a while. It is true that leaving my career in the middle of everything would not be the wisest thing to do hence I did not just quit everything. After all, I was looking for a job those days and had to land one fast. But I thought if my marriage does not survive this, I had no reason to go to work! Why would I be doing all of this if my wife and children were not happy? So I gradually began spending time with my wife. I took my family out to dinner and so on. We could not afford to go to the fanciest restaurants, but in the end it worked. My wife also saw this and began to mellow out. Thus it all sparked a chain reaction that eventually saved our marriage.
I knew I was not myself those days. I had too much tension on my shoulders and my mind could only handle so much. I did not spend time with my wife at all, let alone talking to her when she needed me. All she would get from me was shouts and words that would only hurt her. In addition to the pain I was causing my wife, we had children who were going to suffer the most. There were countless people around me who were divorced, and their children were those who were suffering. Their parents were so caught up in their own affairs they could hardly find time for their children. There was nobody to take them to school, no one to offer them consolation when the street bully beat them up or eat their lunch -- They were just alone. The result was that their grades began to fall.
I could not imagine a future like this for my children and just knew I had to do something about it. Moreover, I imagined I could not just keep my marriage going for the children; I had to save my marriage and make it work for all of us.
So I just took a leap of faith and left everything behind. I put everything on the back burner for a while. It is true that leaving my career in the middle of everything would not be the wisest thing to do hence I did not just quit everything. After all, I was looking for a job those days and had to land one fast. But I thought if my marriage does not survive this, I had no reason to go to work! Why would I be doing all of this if my wife and children were not happy? So I gradually began spending time with my wife. I took my family out to dinner and so on. We could not afford to go to the fanciest restaurants, but in the end it worked. My wife also saw this and began to mellow out. Thus it all sparked a chain reaction that eventually saved our marriage.
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