Moving on after a relationship falls apart is not easy, even if you were the one who initiated the breakup.
Deciding that it really is finally over is never simple, unless you were in a truly horrible or abusive situation that you are relieved to finally be free of.
A breakup disrupts your whole life, especially if you and your ex shared a lot of mutual friends.
Then, everything you do and see and all the people you hang out with seem to remind you of your ex.
You may have to make some big changes in your life, or at least get away from your normal routine for a while.
Your family and friends will be one of your biggest sources of frustration once you have decided to move on.
If your ex was popular with your family, you're going to get tired of questions about the situation.
You must explain to them that you're moving on, the breakup is final, and that you don't appreciate constantly being reminded of your ex and how wonderful he or she was.
Sometimes this is difficult for family to deal with.
They want to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you'll get back together.
You can just explain, "Moving on, it really is final, that's that.
" Eventually, they will come around.
They're your family and they love you.
Friends may be harder to deal with.
If you did not have a lot of mutual friends, then friends may not be a problem, but an asset.
But if the two of you often hung out with the same group of people, then you being with those friends alone is going to seem strange to everyone for a while.
There is also the problem of your ex wanting to hang out with the friends, too.
You might even run into each other as you each attempt to hang out with your mutual friends.
This doesn't mean that it's necessary when you're moving on to also break up with your friends.
It's just going to be more difficult to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over.
As difficult as it seems, when you say, "Moving on, we are history," you may have to give up some of those friendships.
You and your ex may each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of mutual friends.
Just try to maintain good contact and relationships with those you're closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others.
While this can be painful, it's probably easiest on everyone because they don't have to choose which of you to be loyal to and which to avoid.
Sometimes the "moving on, getting over it" period is just too difficult when you're surrounded by mutual friends and so many places to go together.
If possible, go on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people.
Take a vacation with a friend who isn't involved in the situation; maybe a friend of yours who wasn't friends with your ex.
This can help you get some perspective.
Once you've declared, "moving on, breakup final" then if you can take some time away it can help you a great deal.