Finding love is such a feeling of bliss.
Finally, you understand why people claim that being in love puts you in cloud 9.
There is no arguing that happiness is what a loving relationship brings.
On the other side of the pole, breaking up and determining when it is over has the opposite feeling of bliss.
The intensity might be the same but this time around its pain.
So, when do you know that it's over? One of the most difficult things to deal with would be accepting the fact that it's over.
Despite the fact that you have all the evidences to leave your partner, there is that feeling of hope that maybe both of you can still work it out.
This kind of optimism is the common perception of people who have been in a long relationship.
There is a lingering feeling of fear, which the time they invested for each other is finally over.
Sometimes, people have already seen this end coming.
However, they tried to ignore it so not to hurt the feelings of their partner or they feel that the amount of years they have spent together is just too precious to give up.
On the other hand, there are those who were shocked with this realization.
They never saw it coming until the reasons have been present in their face.
Despite the differences of the realization, it all boils down to pain.
Even if it's better for both of you to go separate ways, the memories can often be the obstacle that hampers the individual to move on.
If ever you find yourself thinking of the reasons to hold on, think of the following reasons that brought you to the idea of breaking up.
Here are some of the common signs of conflict: 1.
A third party.
You have seen the evidences yourself, or you caught him/her in the act.
2.
Violence.
Your partner often resorts to hurting you when his/her steam blows off.
3.
Non-stop arguing.
There is no one single thing that you agree on.
The signs that I have listed are obvious signs that there is something wrong with your relationship.
You have to give a special attention to number 2.
Any form of violence may it be a simple as long as it hurts you, is a form of hostility.
It is difficult to admit to yourself that you are actually being abused.
But, don't wait for the time that you get into a serious injury to work things out or end the relationship.
Aside from these major signs, there are other hints that your relationship is on the rocks.
Remember, the first hump that you have to battle would be your tendency to ignore the signs.
It is painful but you have to be true to yourself when things are no longer good for you.
I too believe that there are certain situations wherein you and your partner could still work on to save the relationship.
However, there are also other scenarios which tell that the partnership is no longer sailing.
Here are other signs that lead to breaking up: 1.
You woke up one day and felt that you no longer love your partner.
2.
You always find yourself thinking how good it would be if you are still single.
3.
You felt that your partner have fallen out of love but they stay because they don't want to hurt you.
4.
You finally realized that your goals and interests are not parallel.
5.
You always have to pretend to be someone else in front of your partner.
6.
Their small habits tend to annoy you, and you know that they won't change soon.
7.
Your partner drags you down and always hurt you with words.
Be honest to yourself and reflect properly.
Avoid the thought that you may not find somebody who will love you.
Breaking-up is not something you have to be afraid of.