Having an affair is one of the most secretive, difficult and exciting things that a person does. There are many reasons for having an affair but the majority of them stem from a person not being happy with their marriage and being not able to find a suitable way to get out of the relationship. If you are planning to have an affair or are currently in an affair, there are a few tips and tricks for keeping it a secret and conducting your affair successfully.

Keeping it a Secret

The secret of an affair is what makes it most exciting. Keeping it a secret is what prevents things from getting complicated and getting caught. Here are some tips for keeping it a secret:

Neither party should tell other people that they are seeing someone. The world is a small place and it only takes one person with the wrong information to destroy an affair.
Keep it out of local public places. Again, there is a high risk that you will run into someone that knows you or someone in your circle of friends out in public. Avoid these locations when you are having an affair.
Avoid PDA at work. Public Displays of Affection (PDA) including eye-googling is a tell-all to everyone around you in the work place. If one person suspects there is something going on, the rumor will spread like wildfire. If you are having an affair with a co-worker, avoid doing anything differently while on work grounds.
Always pay in cash and avoid large withdrawals. Especially for someone who shares a bank account with their spouse, large withdrawals of money from the bank can be an obvious sign that something is up. Instead keep money in a private account and choose paperless billing to an email address that is also private.
Have an alibi. One of the biggest mistakes that people having an affair make is not having an alibi. Maybe you have a job that requires you to work late or perhaps takes you away on business trips out of town regularly; these are perfect alibis to cover your tail when having an affair. However, if you do not have these perks, then you need to determine what alibi will work best for you. No matter what you choose, be sure that someone can verify seeing you at a specific location.

Conducting an Affair Successfully

Aside from keeping an affair a secret, you need to actually conduct it successfully. Here are some tips for getting started with an affair and maintaining it.

Choose activities that are less popular and therefore less likely to have people you know at.
Always keep an overnight bag in your car with fresh clothes, cologne/perfume and a shower kit. It is never a bad idea to shower or freshen up after an engagement with your lover. Worst case scenario you tell your partner that you spilled coffee on your shirt at work and had to change.
Avoid buying lavish gifts that are a signature gift from you such as perfume or jewelry. These can be red flags to spouses.
Use private email addresses, avoid dirty texting and regularly clear internet and phone history to keep any communication a secret.