When Your Marriage is Heading For Divorce - How to Get Close to Your Spouse Again
Married life has been great, or so you thought, until that day you woke up to suddenly find that your marriage is heading for divorce.
This can really be earth-shattering, especially when you don't know what has cause this to happen, and worse still, don't know what to do about it.
What you definitely must do is sit down and think about the past few months or years of your marriage - and be honest.
Has it really been the blissful situation you thought is was, or were you simply overlooking certain problems, in the hope that they would go away? Think even further back to when you and your spouse first got married.
Are you as attentive to your spouse as you were, or has any attention from you towards your spouse all but disappeared? If you feel that you are not as attentive as you were, then this is where your problem lies.
Your spouse feels extremely neglected, there is resentment building up towards you and your marriage is heading for divorce.
To prevent this from happening, you MUST do something about it, and right away.
You obviously used to enjoy giving your spouse attention, so start doing it again.
Not only will he/she be a lot happier, but it will give you plenty of enjoyment as well.
Prepare a really great meal for you and your spouse, his/her favorite, and plenty of candles and soft, romantic music.
Tell your spouse that you realize that the fire has gone out of your marriage, and you want to re-kindle the flames, starting immediately.
During your meal, tell your spouse that you realize that you have been neglecting him/her, and that it's going to stop right here and now.
Give your spouse one of those old familiar bear-hugs, and say that there are going to be a lot more of those in future.
It might be that your marriage is heading for divorce at this point in time, but I can assure you, if you give your spouse all the attention that he/she wants, and let your spouse know everyday just how important your marriage is to you, there won't be any risk of divorce in the future - ever.
This can really be earth-shattering, especially when you don't know what has cause this to happen, and worse still, don't know what to do about it.
What you definitely must do is sit down and think about the past few months or years of your marriage - and be honest.
Has it really been the blissful situation you thought is was, or were you simply overlooking certain problems, in the hope that they would go away? Think even further back to when you and your spouse first got married.
Are you as attentive to your spouse as you were, or has any attention from you towards your spouse all but disappeared? If you feel that you are not as attentive as you were, then this is where your problem lies.
Your spouse feels extremely neglected, there is resentment building up towards you and your marriage is heading for divorce.
To prevent this from happening, you MUST do something about it, and right away.
You obviously used to enjoy giving your spouse attention, so start doing it again.
Not only will he/she be a lot happier, but it will give you plenty of enjoyment as well.
Prepare a really great meal for you and your spouse, his/her favorite, and plenty of candles and soft, romantic music.
Tell your spouse that you realize that the fire has gone out of your marriage, and you want to re-kindle the flames, starting immediately.
During your meal, tell your spouse that you realize that you have been neglecting him/her, and that it's going to stop right here and now.
Give your spouse one of those old familiar bear-hugs, and say that there are going to be a lot more of those in future.
It might be that your marriage is heading for divorce at this point in time, but I can assure you, if you give your spouse all the attention that he/she wants, and let your spouse know everyday just how important your marriage is to you, there won't be any risk of divorce in the future - ever.
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