Two Deadly Mistakes You Are Probably Making With Your Ex - And How to Fix Them
There are two common mistakes that people make after being dumped that will ensure their ex will never consider taking them back.
Strangely enough, these mistakes are very easily corrected and could mean the difference between reuniting with the love of your life (and enjoying your lives together), or struggling through a period where every move you make is wrong and your chances slowly slip away.
The first major mistake most of us make is that we come off as desperate.
We continually call and message our ex in an attempt to fix the situation.
This is caused by the intense need we have to make the hurting stop and get things back to the way they were.
The problem is that things will never be the way they were, and by trying to force the issue, we make things a whole lot worse.
At this stage, we are relying on our emotions to make decisions for us, and that is probably the worst thing we can be doing at the moment.
The second mistake many of us make is that we fail to change.
You are the same old person they dumped - nothing is different.
Why would they take you back if you have not changed? You have to give them a reason to want you back and sometimes they need to be reminded that there is more to you than they thought.
One of the best ways to make sure they see you in a new light is to make a few physical changes.
Get a new hairstyle, opt for contacts instead of glasses, lose some weight, or change your wardrobe.
You may also want to consider changing in less obvious ways.
If you have always been quiet and reserved, make it a point to come off as more confident and self-assured.
Anyone can make progress when it comes to increasing self-esteem and confidence.
The result of all this is that they are going to start noticing a new you (hopefully, a better you) and they'll have no choice but to re-evaluate the entire situation.
All the preconceived notions they had about you will have now gone out the window and you can bet that you are going to be on their mind more often than not.
Strangely enough, these mistakes are very easily corrected and could mean the difference between reuniting with the love of your life (and enjoying your lives together), or struggling through a period where every move you make is wrong and your chances slowly slip away.
The first major mistake most of us make is that we come off as desperate.
We continually call and message our ex in an attempt to fix the situation.
This is caused by the intense need we have to make the hurting stop and get things back to the way they were.
The problem is that things will never be the way they were, and by trying to force the issue, we make things a whole lot worse.
At this stage, we are relying on our emotions to make decisions for us, and that is probably the worst thing we can be doing at the moment.
The second mistake many of us make is that we fail to change.
You are the same old person they dumped - nothing is different.
Why would they take you back if you have not changed? You have to give them a reason to want you back and sometimes they need to be reminded that there is more to you than they thought.
One of the best ways to make sure they see you in a new light is to make a few physical changes.
Get a new hairstyle, opt for contacts instead of glasses, lose some weight, or change your wardrobe.
You may also want to consider changing in less obvious ways.
If you have always been quiet and reserved, make it a point to come off as more confident and self-assured.
Anyone can make progress when it comes to increasing self-esteem and confidence.
The result of all this is that they are going to start noticing a new you (hopefully, a better you) and they'll have no choice but to re-evaluate the entire situation.
All the preconceived notions they had about you will have now gone out the window and you can bet that you are going to be on their mind more often than not.
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