The last three weeks or so it seems as if all the stars are lined up in direct opposition to many relationships.
Much has been written lately about some significant shifts in energy that started around the 16th of June.
I must admit, if the traffic on the couch in my office, my email inbox, and my dining room table are any indication, something has shifted.
It seems a disproportionate amount of relationships, romantic and otherwise and in absolutely chaos, if not complete disarray.
These situations seems to be trouble with a capital T.
We are talking about infidelity, abuse, arrests, and break-ups.
In my experience these things rarely come out of nowhere.
In most cases, to the observer, the signs were everywhere.
However, from the inside, where the forest is pretty thick, these life changing relationship disasters were about as predictable as being struck by lightening.
When all hell breaks lose in a relationship, the first question that always rises to the surface is how did I attract this??? "I was in such a good place with things.
I thought my vibration was sky high.
I certainly never imagined my husband didn't love me!!!" Sometimes this is followed by the gut wrenching, disillusioned, "Law of attraction doesn't work.
It just doesn't or this would have never happened to me.
" Bottom line, when you are co-creating with another human, you are still only in charge of you.
You can't control another.
You can control your own experience.
So, as the shock wears off and reality sets in one has to acknowledge law of attraction is always working.
That said, all hell has broken loose.
So what now??? 1.
Take time for yourself, far, far away from the chaos.
That may mean surrounding yourself with friends.
That may mean backpacking.
It may mean a weekend at a five star resort.
Whatever it means, back away, without the partner who is the source of pain, and take as much time as possible to gain perspective.
We all know when you touch a hot stove it burns.
Chances are being around the person in question is a bit like laying on a hot stove.
From an LOA perspective, that's a serious no no.
2.
Take extreme care of your body.
When we are in emotional pain most of us tend to abuse our physical body.
Over-eating, under-eating, not sleeping, drinking or using drugs to escape, are all standard fair for the heart-broken.
The most attractive thing you can do for yourself right now is to demonstrate serious self love.
Start with the body.
Pretend a doctor just told you your life depends on how well you care for yourself.
It might not be far from the truth.
You can't process emotionally when your body is barely hanging on.
So, set up a regimen - the best food - good exercise - stress relief - and lots of sleep.
Consider a spa routine as your model.
You'll be very glad you did.
3.
Find a direct connection to spirit.
I don't know what this means to you.
You may not either.
Meditation, prayer, journal writing, chanting...
The possibilities are endless.
The whirling derbies would spin their way into enlightenment.
Whatever works for you is worth your time.
Whatever you chose you have to look at it as if it's a lifeline because your connection to spirit is just that.
Commit to practicing everyday or ten times a day if you need to.
4.
Get help.
You probably cannot do this alone.
You definitely don't have to.
Why would you even try??? Get professional help.
Immediately find a counselor or a relationship coach.
Interview as many as you need to until you find one you resonate with.
Many people try one professional and quit because they didn't get a vibe they liked.
Keep looking until you find your match