Stumbling Blocks To Avoid When Trying to Get Ex Boyfriend/Ex Girlfriend Back
Trying to get back with an ex can be a trying experience especially when he/she seems to be keeping their distance.
So, you are still in love with your ex partner even though you both have decided to end the relationship on good terms.
But, having the longing for your former partner outweighs the agreement that you have made with each other and you are trying to get them back.
But it seems all that you are doing is driving your ex further and further away.
Could it be that you are making common errors one does when one tries to get their ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend back? 5 common errors that are made and should be avoided by you: 1.
Beg to be taken back: Appealing for another chance is not going to make the situation any better, in most cases it will make the situation worse and cause him/her to resent you.
Your ex could still be harboring frustration towards something that you have said or done, and begging excessively is only going to make him/her more agitated.
Showing up suddenly at his/her workplace, class or other place that he/she might be at, and you have never done that before is just going to cause tension.
Especially if you make a scene pleading to be taken back declaring your undying love for your ex telling everyone that you want them back in your life.
Calling, sending emails or text messages in excess is not going to help matters much.
By doing such things your ex is going to start to find ways to avoid you as best as he/she possible can.
That is something that is not going to improve your chances of getting your ex back at all.
This behavior has to be avoided to have a chance of rekindling your past relationship.
2.
Being apologetic: Admitting to past wrongdoings and saying `Sorry` is a good start to mending any broken relationship.
But don`t overdo it.
Taking on all the blame yourself and continuously apologizing for anything and everything may be misunderstood as a sign of weakness and/or low self-esteem.
This could be understood that you are willing to do anything to save your relationship, which could cause you to be taken advantage of.
If you have done something or said something wrong give a sincere apology.
Don't whine about it for days on end, if you do, it might lead to a bigger split between you and your ex.
Apologize, keep it simple and sincere.
3.
Trying to convince them that you are the one and only: You were once the hottest couple around everyone wanted your perfect relationship, but remember it ended, you have broken up.
Constantly calling your ex and pleading for him/her to take you back is annoying.
Trying to convince them that you and only are their true love.
The love of their life.
These actions may cause him/her to push you further away especially if he/she has met someone and is getting close to them.
If possible try talking to your ex partner, really talking and listening to each other.
List all the things that bothered each of you and what you loved about each other and go through the list that you have created.
Listen, don't try to justify or make excuses for the things on the list.
But, really listen.
You might discover that is was minor things that irritated the relationship and caused it to spiral out of control.
Being able to go through this list without having to or trying to justify items listed.
One might see a pattern or action that could lead to a common ground.
This in turn can be used to rebuild the relationship to its former self.
4.
Avoiding fault in the relationship: Unless you both have decided to end the relationship, there is always one person that is hurt and may be the cause of the break up.
The break up grounds can be over what was said or the actions that have been done.
Strangely, the cause may not even be the persons fault.
It could be that you have grown apart, met someone else or the relationship has stagnated (this reason may allow a reconciliation).
Does this apply to you? If yes, and you have made all efforts to get your ex back and he/she refuses, stop and except that the relationship has ended.
Reasoning with your ex trying him to see the errors of his/her ways of ending the relationship will just lead to him/her hating you in the end and never wanting to speak or see you again.
5.
Changing oneself to make it work: Promising to break a bad habit can be very difficult especially since you have lived with that trait all your life and it will take hard work on your part to change it.
Don't promise to change something that you cannot change just to save the relationship.
If you break your promise or cannot change your bad habit it will just cause the relationship to end ugly.
You have to be 100 percent committed to your promise.
Trying to avoid these common stumbling blocks might help you save your relationship.
But both parties have to be willing to give it a chance to work.
Willing to listen and met each other half way, not just one person can make the changes there has to be certain give and take to make it work.
So, you are still in love with your ex partner even though you both have decided to end the relationship on good terms.
But, having the longing for your former partner outweighs the agreement that you have made with each other and you are trying to get them back.
But it seems all that you are doing is driving your ex further and further away.
Could it be that you are making common errors one does when one tries to get their ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend back? 5 common errors that are made and should be avoided by you: 1.
Beg to be taken back: Appealing for another chance is not going to make the situation any better, in most cases it will make the situation worse and cause him/her to resent you.
Your ex could still be harboring frustration towards something that you have said or done, and begging excessively is only going to make him/her more agitated.
Showing up suddenly at his/her workplace, class or other place that he/she might be at, and you have never done that before is just going to cause tension.
Especially if you make a scene pleading to be taken back declaring your undying love for your ex telling everyone that you want them back in your life.
Calling, sending emails or text messages in excess is not going to help matters much.
By doing such things your ex is going to start to find ways to avoid you as best as he/she possible can.
That is something that is not going to improve your chances of getting your ex back at all.
This behavior has to be avoided to have a chance of rekindling your past relationship.
2.
Being apologetic: Admitting to past wrongdoings and saying `Sorry` is a good start to mending any broken relationship.
But don`t overdo it.
Taking on all the blame yourself and continuously apologizing for anything and everything may be misunderstood as a sign of weakness and/or low self-esteem.
This could be understood that you are willing to do anything to save your relationship, which could cause you to be taken advantage of.
If you have done something or said something wrong give a sincere apology.
Don't whine about it for days on end, if you do, it might lead to a bigger split between you and your ex.
Apologize, keep it simple and sincere.
3.
Trying to convince them that you are the one and only: You were once the hottest couple around everyone wanted your perfect relationship, but remember it ended, you have broken up.
Constantly calling your ex and pleading for him/her to take you back is annoying.
Trying to convince them that you and only are their true love.
The love of their life.
These actions may cause him/her to push you further away especially if he/she has met someone and is getting close to them.
If possible try talking to your ex partner, really talking and listening to each other.
List all the things that bothered each of you and what you loved about each other and go through the list that you have created.
Listen, don't try to justify or make excuses for the things on the list.
But, really listen.
You might discover that is was minor things that irritated the relationship and caused it to spiral out of control.
Being able to go through this list without having to or trying to justify items listed.
One might see a pattern or action that could lead to a common ground.
This in turn can be used to rebuild the relationship to its former self.
4.
Avoiding fault in the relationship: Unless you both have decided to end the relationship, there is always one person that is hurt and may be the cause of the break up.
The break up grounds can be over what was said or the actions that have been done.
Strangely, the cause may not even be the persons fault.
It could be that you have grown apart, met someone else or the relationship has stagnated (this reason may allow a reconciliation).
Does this apply to you? If yes, and you have made all efforts to get your ex back and he/she refuses, stop and except that the relationship has ended.
Reasoning with your ex trying him to see the errors of his/her ways of ending the relationship will just lead to him/her hating you in the end and never wanting to speak or see you again.
5.
Changing oneself to make it work: Promising to break a bad habit can be very difficult especially since you have lived with that trait all your life and it will take hard work on your part to change it.
Don't promise to change something that you cannot change just to save the relationship.
If you break your promise or cannot change your bad habit it will just cause the relationship to end ugly.
You have to be 100 percent committed to your promise.
Trying to avoid these common stumbling blocks might help you save your relationship.
But both parties have to be willing to give it a chance to work.
Willing to listen and met each other half way, not just one person can make the changes there has to be certain give and take to make it work.
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