The Mistake That Most People Make That Prevents Them From Feeling Confident
Often, our lack of self-confidence comes from not being able to live up to the expectations of many.
But in order to uplift our spirits, we are often told that we can never please everybody so why bother live up to anyone's expectations? So, okay, we no longer try to live up to anyone's expectations but why are we still aren't getting any success? Well, you might have forgotten there is one important person you've got to please: yourself.
As children born with exuberance and enthusiasm, we have always expected and demanded something from the world.
And mostly, it was during childhood that we always get what we expected to get.
But as we grow older, we learn that not everything we expect becomes real resulting to our feelings of disappointment and hopelessness.
So we grow to become less expectant of the world especially of ourselves.
In order to avoid any feeling of disappointment, we try not to expect anything from ourselves.
The problem is when we don't expect anything from ourselves; we usually don't do our best efforts.
In the end, we cannot even live up to the simple lives we have come to be contented with.
However, our expectations of ourselves are really our goals; our dreams of who we want to be.
If we don't even give a single effort for it, then how can we attain it? The problem is that we sacrifice our own success, our own goals just because we don't want to feel disappointed.
We expect less from ourselves so we also become less than average persons.
In the end, we compromise our own standards.
Moreover, we shouldn't be afraid to live up to other people's expectations especially if they only want the best from us.
All our lives we have been told that we shouldn't care for other's people's expectations.
But really, people may expect you to be great and excellent, so what's wrong with that? Just make sure that other people's expectations won't get in the way of yours.
Sometimes, it's a challenge that we have to face.
It only becomes wrong when you spend all your life trying live up to other's expectations.
Also, don't be afraid of setting high expectations of yourselves.
If you settle for less, for sure you'll get just that: less.
As long as it doesn't eat your happiness and challenges you into becoming the best you can be, expectations are good.
But in order to uplift our spirits, we are often told that we can never please everybody so why bother live up to anyone's expectations? So, okay, we no longer try to live up to anyone's expectations but why are we still aren't getting any success? Well, you might have forgotten there is one important person you've got to please: yourself.
As children born with exuberance and enthusiasm, we have always expected and demanded something from the world.
And mostly, it was during childhood that we always get what we expected to get.
But as we grow older, we learn that not everything we expect becomes real resulting to our feelings of disappointment and hopelessness.
So we grow to become less expectant of the world especially of ourselves.
In order to avoid any feeling of disappointment, we try not to expect anything from ourselves.
The problem is when we don't expect anything from ourselves; we usually don't do our best efforts.
In the end, we cannot even live up to the simple lives we have come to be contented with.
However, our expectations of ourselves are really our goals; our dreams of who we want to be.
If we don't even give a single effort for it, then how can we attain it? The problem is that we sacrifice our own success, our own goals just because we don't want to feel disappointed.
We expect less from ourselves so we also become less than average persons.
In the end, we compromise our own standards.
Moreover, we shouldn't be afraid to live up to other people's expectations especially if they only want the best from us.
All our lives we have been told that we shouldn't care for other's people's expectations.
But really, people may expect you to be great and excellent, so what's wrong with that? Just make sure that other people's expectations won't get in the way of yours.
Sometimes, it's a challenge that we have to face.
It only becomes wrong when you spend all your life trying live up to other's expectations.
Also, don't be afraid of setting high expectations of yourselves.
If you settle for less, for sure you'll get just that: less.
As long as it doesn't eat your happiness and challenges you into becoming the best you can be, expectations are good.
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