Q: Why do people have low self-esteem? They seem to be defeated, depressed, and discouraged more than ever.
How and why does this happen? Is medication the only answer to living a happy and healthy life? If you have to take medication to feel good, it doesn't seem like you're living at all.
A: Based on my own transformational path, I discovered 3 reasons why people have low self esteem.
Unfortunately, one of them goes back to childhood.
Most people are wounded children who haven't processed the abuse and neglect they may have experienced.
They haven't processed their abandonment and other issues.
3 Reasons Why People Have Low Self Esteem 1.
A tough childhood.
It's sad to say that most people are nothing more than wounded children.
If your parents got divorced, you probably felt abandoned.
If your parents were/are addicts, you probably grew up before your time and had too much responsibility that you were not ready for.
If you grew up within a blended family, you could have felt abandoned.
Perhaps, you had to 'fight' for attention and to be heard.
Like it or not, your childhood shaped your self-esteem.
Buy a journal and write down your thoughts about your childhood.
Get all of your emotions out.
If you feel like crying, cry your eyes out because it's a way to release old and stuck emotions.
Once you clear out the cobwebs from your childhood, you'll be ready to cultivate a high self esteem.
2.
Bullying.
Were you bullied as a child? Are you being bullied at your place of employment? Do your family and friends bully you? Allowing others to push you around is a sign of low self esteem.
If you don't stand or speak up for you, no one will.
Take your power back and set healthy and strong boundaries.
No one has the right to bully you.
Remember, no one has power over you unless you give it to them.
3.
No friends.
Are you a loner? Do you prefer animals to people? Some people prefer to be by themselves.
While this is your choice, it may not be the healthiest.
Believe it or not, you can hand pick your friends.
You don't have to hang out with people who disrespect or mistreat you.
If someone doesn't resonate with you, wish them well and say goodbye.
There are billions of people in the world -- you can find friends who are 'right' for you.
By the way, if you do prefer animals to people, you're not alone.
Why not volunteer for animal shelter or zoo? This way you'll be around people who love animals as much as you do.
The best part is you'll make friends with people who care about animals as much as you do.