The Dos and Don"ts In Getting Your Ex Back
So you want to get your ex back, right?
Let me tell you something, it is very achievable. Happy now?
Wait, I'm not finish yet.
It is very achievable if you do it the right way. Yes, like everything else in the world, there are the right way and the wrong way to get your ex back. The right way, as you've guessed, will ensure that you get your ex back while the wrong way produces just the opposite.
Unfortunately, what you think is right might be wrong.
Do not blame yourself, as you are not emotionally stable and is not that what a person who is emotionally unstable do: rushing and make mistakes?
Let's go to the dont's part first as this is more important and needs to be taken care of before you start destroying your chance.
Donts
It generally consists of two parts.
1. You do not want to give more reasons to your ex to leave you. Whatever you do, this is the kind of things that you should avoid. It will give more reasons to leave you or worse your ex will start to hate you.
This includes stalking, begging, arguing, chasing yand whatnot. What will be your ex's response towards all these? Go away, stop following me, stop bugging me, don't call me again etc. You are conditioning your ex to hate you and enjoy your absence because you are absolutely disturbing and annoying by doing these kind of things.
2. You do not want to appear weak. This will make your ex feels that they are making a wise decision to leave you because you have no self confidence. Last time I checked, being weak is not sexy and not attractive.
So, stop act depressed or sad or miserable. I mean, you can feel that way but do not let your situation hurting you too much.
Now you know what not to do, let see what you have to do in order to restore your relationship. Basically it is complete opposite of the dont's.
Do's
1. Accept the break up. Before you think that I am crazy, bear with me for a minute.
Normally, we as human being love to want what we cannot have. If you do not accept this break up, your ex might give you thousands of reasons why you should break up. One reason after another will only convince them that this is the most appropriate decision. If your reaction to the break up is just accepting it, they do not know how to react to that situation because generally that is not what they want.
2. Make yourself valuable. When your ex leave you, it is because they do not value you as much. Your job is to create that value. If there are certain area in your life that can be improved, improve it. Be more confident, more compassionate, learn to give compliments, learn how to argue effectively without hurting your ex's feeling etc.
3. Maintain a casual communication. By all mean, do not avoid any contact with your ex. However, only let them contact you, you don't have to contact them.
This might vary according to the situation. But the wisdom behind all this is you cannot let them getting used or accustomed by your absence and then move on. You probably have heard time heals all wound, that is certainly something that you do not want. So, you need to maintain communicationg with your ex. On the other hand, you do not want to appear pushy or desperate.
Let me tell you something, it is very achievable. Happy now?
Wait, I'm not finish yet.
It is very achievable if you do it the right way. Yes, like everything else in the world, there are the right way and the wrong way to get your ex back. The right way, as you've guessed, will ensure that you get your ex back while the wrong way produces just the opposite.
Unfortunately, what you think is right might be wrong.
Do not blame yourself, as you are not emotionally stable and is not that what a person who is emotionally unstable do: rushing and make mistakes?
Let's go to the dont's part first as this is more important and needs to be taken care of before you start destroying your chance.
Donts
It generally consists of two parts.
1. You do not want to give more reasons to your ex to leave you. Whatever you do, this is the kind of things that you should avoid. It will give more reasons to leave you or worse your ex will start to hate you.
This includes stalking, begging, arguing, chasing yand whatnot. What will be your ex's response towards all these? Go away, stop following me, stop bugging me, don't call me again etc. You are conditioning your ex to hate you and enjoy your absence because you are absolutely disturbing and annoying by doing these kind of things.
2. You do not want to appear weak. This will make your ex feels that they are making a wise decision to leave you because you have no self confidence. Last time I checked, being weak is not sexy and not attractive.
So, stop act depressed or sad or miserable. I mean, you can feel that way but do not let your situation hurting you too much.
Now you know what not to do, let see what you have to do in order to restore your relationship. Basically it is complete opposite of the dont's.
Do's
1. Accept the break up. Before you think that I am crazy, bear with me for a minute.
Normally, we as human being love to want what we cannot have. If you do not accept this break up, your ex might give you thousands of reasons why you should break up. One reason after another will only convince them that this is the most appropriate decision. If your reaction to the break up is just accepting it, they do not know how to react to that situation because generally that is not what they want.
2. Make yourself valuable. When your ex leave you, it is because they do not value you as much. Your job is to create that value. If there are certain area in your life that can be improved, improve it. Be more confident, more compassionate, learn to give compliments, learn how to argue effectively without hurting your ex's feeling etc.
3. Maintain a casual communication. By all mean, do not avoid any contact with your ex. However, only let them contact you, you don't have to contact them.
This might vary according to the situation. But the wisdom behind all this is you cannot let them getting used or accustomed by your absence and then move on. You probably have heard time heals all wound, that is certainly something that you do not want. So, you need to maintain communicationg with your ex. On the other hand, you do not want to appear pushy or desperate.
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